My Life Path # 3

The MOST correct prediction about me Ever!!!  I needed to preserve it..

You possess a great talent for creativity and self expression. Many writers, poets, actors and musicians are born under the 3 Life Path. Megha, you are witty, possess a gift for gab, and savor the limelight.

Your talent for the expressive arts is so abundant that you may well have felt drawn to becoming an artist while still very young. Your artistic abilities can only be developed, however, through discipline and commitment to the true development of your talent. Commitment, concentration and hard work are the only means of bringing forth your talent.

Thanks to your gift for self expression, you can be the life of the party, and the center of attention. However, you could easily squander your talent by becoming a social butterfly.

Your creativity is the gift that can give you the comfort and luxury you desire, but not without continual focus and discipline.

You are optimistic and possess the resilience to overcome many setbacks. You are socially active, popular, and inspire people with your sunny 'happy go lucky' attitude.

Megha, you can be generous to a fault. Many people born under the 3 Life Path have difficulty handling money because they can be disorganized and not particularly serious about their responsibilities.

You are emotional and vulnerable. When hurt, you withdraw into a cloud of silence, eventually emerging from your reticence with jokes and laughter that cover up your true feelings. You can become moody and cynical when depressed. You can succumb to sarcastic remarks, which can be painful to those around you.

When used positively, your talent for self expression can be a great inspiration force in the world, uplifting others, and bringing much success and happiness to you.

Feminism and Divorce - No Way

I overheard a so-called upbeat educated, learned, independent lady saying this, "Feminism has gone to women’s head. They fall in love, get married and even sooner get divorced. Divorce has become like selling onions.Girls should better learn to compromise" and I was taken aback in shame and surprise. I strongly feel all the money put into her education has gone waste and down the drains.

I do not understand what kind of a society we live in,  where a married daughter is considered a status symbol! Is it not more important that the daughter should be happily married rather than being only married. After all her parents nurtured her with utmost care, without any bias,  imparting the best of education, and brought her up in an environment where her opinion was always valued, she never had to bow down for things that she considered inappropriate and unjust. 

Does compromise mean forgetting that a girl is as human as a boy is and that she too has a backbone to stand up tall and straight for her viewpoint and also a head to think logically? Does compromise mean succumbing to Domestic Violence by her husband only because she is a woman or may be because she chose to marry someone who was not completely acceptable to her family? 

I am not sure what this lady meant by such heavy weight words like "Feminism and Divorce selling like Onions". And I do not speak on behalf of all the woman out there who choose to put an end to their marriages and I do not say that all the marriages break because of the man being wrong. Yes, I know of few woman who were terribly wrong when it came to breaking off relationships or setting expectations. But my question is who decides, what is right or wrong? Shouldn't it be the sole discretion of two people who have to live under the same roof all their life to decide to Pull-On or Call-Off. Why does the society have to poke their nose in damn everything others do. Please let people be on their own.

Only a person who decides to Call-Off can understand the pain and the courage it takes to do so. We live in a society that is stereotyped to live by the rules. It is not easy to face the interrogations and stupid advise that practically anyone could hurl at them, only because they have chosen to get divorced. One who breaks the rules, chooses to follow a path less taken, turn to be anti social, esp. a girl, if she gets divorced, she deserved it because she is a BAD-GIRL. She doesn't have the innate qualities of compromise, sacrifice for her family(read husband, son, father, brother), is outrageously outspoken and deserves to be alone. A civil court and its ugly face for a girl who chooses to stand apart from a lot of her counterparts in a country like ours is not pleasant. So, in each and every case, it definitely is not only feminism that brings her there. Please stop categorizing people. Not all girls are the BAD BAD GIRLS and not all boys are Insane either.

I do not know if she deserves to be alone because of all that the society thinks to be right. But yes,she definitely deserves to be alone because she wants to breathe, because she doesn't want to prove anything to anyone, she is the apple of her parent's eyes and she doesn't deserved to be humiliated, beat and demoralized by her husband who is insane, suffering from lack of self esteem and wants to command all the respect and dominance on his wife.It does not matter if she is educated or not, she is a human being and at least deserves to be respected and not treated like a donkey who is supposed to keep on working day and night and not utter a word.

Marriage as they say a Holy Matrimony is by far much more than all this. It is a bond of understanding and love, where if one falls the other is ready to pick up. No one out there in this world is perfect. Each one of us are bound to make mistakes, Marriage is not about picking up the partner's faults, rather it's being the Strength in times of distress. Accept and Respect at every step. It's about Selfless Love, there is no I, Me, Myself - it's all about We-togetherness. And it is not a one-sided attempt. Both need to understand and imbibe all of it to make it work. But when it does not and people break off, it doesn't mean the the girl wasn't ready to 'COMPROMISE' or is 'FEMINIST'. It only means she deserves to breathe, be happy and spread that happiness all around.

I don't care what views people have on this post - positive or negative, I don't know if it makes sense or not but to hear something of the sorts I did today brought me to boil and I voiced what I thought is right. 

Lots of Love to such people who need it the most,
Megha S.

My Best Friend's Wedding

What a packed day it was! Moved around the city from one shop to the next, from one mall to the other, shopping like crazy. Yes, that is part of the Big Fat Indian Weddings. Wedding Ceremonies in India and esp. in North India are more of a Show-Shaa than anything else. Parents spend all their booty on feeding hundreds of hungry relatives who will do nothing but criticize the arrangements, the catering and even the Venue. There is a whole lot of "Auntyjees" whose only goal of coming to a wedding party is to check out the Outfit and accessories of other ladies and more so the Bride. And as if all this was not enough, if the wedding that they are into is by Chance a Love Marriage, God save the poor Bride and Groom. If anyone asked me, I would settle down into a marriage by signing off few papers in the presence of my closest family members.

Well anyways, Divya has finally found her Man and is getting married in a week and we went shopping for her.For once, I forgot it is Divya's wedding not mine. I bought perfumes and accessories worth half my month's salary and now I am feeling like a stupid moron for wasting my hard earned money.  

I don't know how would have I survived the toughest times of my life without her. How would have I managed to live away from home without the constant support, love, warmth and care that she had to offer. No matter how terribly wrong things were, she always stood beside me and said,"Megha, you are the best and deserve nothing but the Best. Have Patience, the best is yet to come." She has this bundle of confidence in me, that I too begin to lack sometimes and then she comes around and strengthens me, lifts me up and brings back my Mojo. That is what Friends are for, but she sure is way above all the others. My heart goes out to Wish her all the happiness on this planet. Oh Dear Lord, bring her only happiness and smiles. May she be blessed with the strongest bond of marriage and all her dreams come true, all that she aspires and all that she hopes out of this new relationship come true. Lots of Love to my sweetheart. 

I can only try to imagine how would my life change post her wedding. No matter what promises we make, I know things change, priorities get altered, focus shifts and yes it should. So I am apprehensive of what will happen to all that masti time with her that we had as SINGLES, those ACTIVA-RIDES, movies, shopping and crazy little things without which my life in Delhi would have been tasteless and stagnant.

Again, I am back to the same option left, Wait and Watch what is in store.. :) :) So when our shopping was finally over and I pacified the hunger of my stomach that could devour even a Human had I not got food then,I bid bye to meet her next on her Sangeet Ceremony. She could sense the apprehension in my eyes and  I felt like holding her and weeping like a child who longs for that favorite toy but doesn't know if it will get it or not. I wanted to pour out my heart, I am strong filled with patience. I know it will all be fine in the end. But I want all those good things to happen now.

She only said, "Enjoy this time as long as it lasts, bells are going to ring soon.Those who chose to leave were fools for they know not what a precious jewel they have lost".. Ahhh!! I don't know sweetheart if I am really that good or it is only your biased love for me that is talking.. :) :)

Whatever it is, I am super excited for the Sangeet and the Wedding for I get to adorn ethnics that I rarely wear otherwise..
Photographs and details to follow soon.....

With Love,
Megha S.

Always at the Top...

I have been there all the time,
At the TOP with nothing to whine,
Like the SIRIUS that is determined to Shine...

Nothing came for free or any ease,
I burnt the midnight Oil, battled the breeze,
Fought against all odds and made the Stars Believe..

The fetish to excel in all walks of life,
Coaxed the body and the mind to always be in strife,
One pleaded Stop, the other commanded never pause and sigh..

I always put at stake all that I had,
Only the taste of success gave me the HIGH,
It takes to keep moving, soaring and never Die..

But now this Excruciating Pain,
Like a thousand sharpnels pierced into the Brain,
For all the efforts and trials are going into Vain..

The body and the mind are at a constant rage,
They are now anyway in the same Cage,
"You do not have it in you anymore" is what they gauge..

Tired from the judgments and this drama unique
Solace from all this is all that I seek,
Where there is only acceptance and no critique..

"Show-Shaa" and manipulation is not my antique,
Spare me Thy Lord, the horror of this league,
All this drowns me into an ocean of fatigue..

Happy I will be in the world of my dreams,
Where there is Love and Compassionate gleam,
Give me a jolt and make me believe,
You have created a world with Truth Supreme...

With Love,
Megha S.

Listen if You Can...

I have been in a state of constant confusion for the past few weeks now. Nothing has worked out the way I wanted it to, so much so that whatever I am clinging to with hope seems to evade; people, relationships, possessions. 
I have been asked the same question, "What is most important to you in Life?" more than 10 times in the last one month. My answer has always been the same. People don't believe it. I think its their problem. I want to be happy and my happiness lies in the beauty of life. I don't want a lot of money since I am not a very extravagant person. With the ups and downs that life had to offer, I have learnt that if there is a force that can keep you bound and help you release all your troubles, that force is Family. Today, Family is on the top of my priority list. By the Grace of God, I have an independent life, a good job, a wholesome pay packet.Yet, at the end of the day, when I head back, I yearn to be within a home where I have few close people waiting for me to come back and celebrate Life. I am missing that so so much. How I wish, I could keep my father, sisters and everyone close to me and forget all the worries of my life. 
Why is the trust factor so low in people? Why do they have to resort to mean ways to find the truth? I can look up straight into people's eyes and tell them the truth? I am blatantly honest, irrespective of what you think about me after that.I have done no Crime. I have no reasons to lie. With all these questions and a series of failures both professionally and personally, I had begun losing hope. I was worried if God is with me or not! Can God or the Master Spirits or the Guardian Spirits, whatever you may call them hear me at all. Do they Know what I want. Am I asking too much? Is being genuine a crime in this manipulative, materialistic world?
This morning, I had a beautiful dream, a dream that sent a lot of positive vibrations my way. An Affirmation from the Gods, "They Are With Me, They are in fact listening to Me." They filled my cup of love that was fast depleting and gave me the courage to Hold On. The dream filled me with Compassion and I felt charged up. I feel like reaching out to friends, family whoever is in need and hug them, let them know. God is there with us always, always, always. The Universe is listening to every vibration that you are transmitting. Those vibrations shall travel to people whom it is meant for. We only need to be positive in our vibrations, if we really want it to. I am now ready to stretch my hands and lend help to anyone. For I know the Cup of Love is always full and can never deplete. 

With love,
Megha S.

The Source

This morning when I logged into my inbox, the first email that I lay my eyes on was sent by my Dad. It contained an attachment of an e-book “The Source – of Stillness, of Relationships, of goodness” by Anthea Church and a little Note,” I think u will enjoy reading it”. Dad has this inherent quality of knowing when and what I need. The email reached me just when I needed it the most. Thanks Papa!!!

The voracious reader that I am, I devoured the 64 page .pdf in 45 minutes straight. I have been following the daily talk, “Awakening with BrahmaKumaris - with BK Sister Shivani” on Aastha Channel at 7:10 PM IST for few years now and it has been a revelation to me.

Few invaluable experiences:

1. Live in the Present – There is no fun in watching a suspense movie aware of the climax and the end. Life is a drama with this world as your stage. Every individual that walks in and out is a character that has been sent to play their script. We can concentrate only on our own scripts. There is no element of control exercised on anyone else’ script. If we try to do so, we will fail miserably.
2. Keep Patience – Everything shall happen at its own predestined speed. Do not be restless on getting the desired outcomes. Accept that we cannot alter the script of the Masters.
3. Let Go – Forget all that has gone. Pack the baggage, tie it with a hard string and throw it into the sea. We do not need it any more. We do not need the connections that brought pain. They were not worth you and your time. So let go off the past and don’t ever build notions on what hath chanced.
4.  Be Non-Judgmental – It is ok to evaluate, but not ok to be judgmental. We may meet a lot of people in the journey of our life. It’s important to evaluate them to understand our soul connection to them. But being judgmental lowers the energy level and that can be detrimental to relationships. Cherish the similarities and respect the differences. That is the best way to enjoy life. 
5.   Be Happy – This is a personal choice and I believe in it strongly. Love people and accept them for who they are. Despite all odds, there are and will always be some subtle things that make you happy, identify them and live them to the fullest.
6.  Be your self – Never change yourself to impress people and situations. For when the truth comes out, it can be disastrous. People will accept you for what you are. Those who don’t, they don’t deserve to be a part of your story anyway. Live for yourself, to be someone whom you can stand up to without any prejudices. Be someone whom you will be able to respect and love.

I read this on a friend's wall post and felt an instant connect, "It doesn't interest me how much money u have.... I want to know that u will always be true with or without money.."

L

With Love,

Megha S.